Using the Power of Positive Self-Talk

Using self-talk that is optimistic can help you foster self-compassion, embrace self-doubt, and take on new challenges. On the other hand, negative self-talk can limit your abilities and lessen your confidence by convincing your subconscious that you "can't handle it" or that something is "too hard" or that you "shouldn't even try."

The next time, you begin to think that you have no business speaking up in a meeting or that you are too out of shape to work out, remind yourself that these thoughts aren’t always accurate.

Here are a few examples of how to challenge pessimistic self-talk and reframe your thoughts into a more positive way of thinking:

• Instead of telling yourself "I can't handle this," or "This is impossible," try reminding yourself that "You can handle it," or "All I have to do is try."

• Instead of telling yourself "I can’t do anything right," when you make a mistake, remind yourself "I can do better next time," or "at least I learned something."

• Instead of saying you "hate" public speaking, use a milder work like "don't like," and remind yourself that "everyone has strengths and weaknesses."

At some point everyone will experience struggles with self-confidence. But if your self-confidence struggles interfere with your work, social life, or education, you should consider seeking help from a mental health professional.

Sometimes, low self-confidence stems from a bigger issue, like a traumatic event from the past. At other times, it might be a symptom of a mental health challenge.

If you or a loved one are struggling with self-confidence, LifeWays is here 24/7. The first step is to call our Access/Crisis Phoneline at 1 (800) 284-8288.

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For related self-confidence boosting articles, see our Boost Your Self-Confidence post.  

Sources: Verywell mind  Amy Morin, LCSW  5 Ways to Build Your Self-Confidence. 01-11-2021